What are the advantages/disadvantages of marriage ?

[Anthea]

The little laptop I bought a few days ago made my total up to 9

Trouble is I never remember what they all have on them so I end up using old faithful - with it's sticky keyboard

I may have even forgotten some of the passwords - I changed most of the recently because they were all train names and numbers - everyone has a different password

I intend to build a Beowulf Cluster - this is my dream


someone has stolen my dream - cannot trust anyone on here

Unfortunately I am not that good YET

This will be the reality

[Anthea]

I must not forget TUX

[Anthea]

What I really need is a man with 9 computers - just think of the fun we could have building the system together

And in-between times we could try out some of the things in my books - did I mention that I was trained in sex education - no joke - I trained with the Family Planning Association to teach sex education in schools, colleges, youth groups and anywhere else, I have added to my original books

[Piling]

If it is like sex education that French students have in biology courses, I guess that Kamasutra is funnier.

[Anthea]

If it is like sex education that French students have in biology courses, I guess that Kamasutra is funnier.

Nothing like your biology course - I used to teach the teachers how to teach sex education - what almost all of them did was stand at the front of the class and stutter - I had to add humour - we had to show them all the different contraceptives - young people are going to laugh so I had to make it fun

[Anthea]

I believe that for a relationship/marriage to be successful it helps considerably to share some of the same interests/hobbies

For instance, I could never be happy with a man whose main interest in life is watching mind numbing TV non-stop

I am NOT a city dweller - I love the countryside - I enjoy learning new things - I love music, almost all types of music - I love writing poetry and chants - I love steam trains, full size and models - I make jewellery and candles - I enjoy playing with computers - I love animals and pets of all kinds

I do NOT like people who kill spiders

[Feyli_kord]

I believe that for a relationship/marriage to be successful it helps considerably to share some of the same interests/hobbies

For instance, I could never be happy with a man whose main interest in life is watching mind numbing TV non-stop

I am NOT a city dweller - I love the countryside - I enjoy learning new things - I love music, almost all types of music - I love writing poetry and chants - I love steam trains, full size and models - I make jewellery and candles - I enjoy playing with computers - I love animals and pets of all kinds

I do NOT like people who kill spiders

You sound like..... 90% of all western women, save for the train part. You could have added, "i enjoy eating food and breathing, drinking water is also essential", I bet you love travelling too.

[Anthea]

You sound like..... 90% of all western women, save for the train part. You could have added, "i enjoy eating food and breathing, drinking water is also essential", I bet you love travelling too.

Wrong, a lot of western women prefer city life with it's night-life, night clubs and bars - I would say that only a small percentage enjoy trudging through muddy fields and wandering through woods - most of them would be too afraid they might break a nail

Very few women are really into computers - I have seldom come across any women on the computer science or programming courses I have been on

[Anthea]

The world-wide feminist movement would do well to cast its mind back to the era of the ancient Medes and Persians in which the first battle for women's rights was fought by the Median Queen Vashti.

...why the female guerrillas of Kurdistan are now going to fight for women's rights in the Islamic world.

We ask feminists and their organizations around the world to honor Queen Vashti by encouraging women to read the book 'Vashti Queen of the Ancient Medes' in the hope they will teach their sons to respect women and treat them as their equals; and set the example for their daughters to value themselves and act in the dignity and integrity of womanhood that they expect to be afforded by the opposite sex.

"For humanity to be free to reach its true potential it first has to recognize women's capabilities in the society and assign them an important role, apart from, but not excluding, their special biological role and status in the society; both roles have always been formative elements of women's existence. Once the important role is recognised, it must accompany the equal acceptance of men with women across humanity. By taking humanity only along a male path we are not able to affirm life through true recognition of the intrinsic and necessarily high value of women.

"Women exist differently in their inherent natures, just as they do biologically. Societies that have upheld the superiority of men have reduced the importance of women almost to nothing by not counting them as real human beings.

"Now these errors must be understood but not left as obstacles to the alleviation of a society's ills. The essential factors of life are innately found in women, even when they have been cut off from society this truth has not been negated, since no one has been able to prove the opposite. In reality the male approach using power and force against the female personality fights against the very life forces that perpetuate the race.

"A society featuring male animosity towards women in support of male power goals to eliminate women as fully functioning human beings reflects the significant deterioration of the male gender's innate personality within that society; due to the perpetuation of errors in the understanding of women's true nature, beauty and life giving power."

Thousands of Kurdish women are holding a gun to defend women's rights in the four Islamic countries now controlling Kurdistan, the land where Queen Vashti was born. More than 2,600 years ago, as an ancestor of today's Kurds, Vashti revolted against unjust treatment by her husband, King Astyages of the Medes. Consequently, today's Kurdish women will no longer tolerate the unjust practices of the Islamic rulers of Kurdistan.

Now the messages in our books inform feminist organizations worldwide, especially those in the West, about the origins of the Kurdish women's movement now fighting to defeat the extremists who continue to aggressively maintain the enslavement of women in the Islamic world. Although it is a recent publication Vashti Queen of the Ancient Medes already has some ticks of approval, while the companion title in the Airyanem Series, Esther, Mystery Queen of the Medes, explores the parallel story of the Jewish Purim hero, Esther.

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In light of this and other recent articles about the rights of women in Islamic societies, how do Kurdish men react to the changing expectations of Islamic women inside marriage?

Have the hope and expectations of Kurdish/Islamic women altered in light of this recent articles?

[Anthea]

So many religious traditions authored from a male viewpoint have failed to uphold their professed teachings regarding the equal status and value of men and women and all their inalienable human rights. Additionally, successive patriarchal interpretations and their application have reduced women in, for instance, parts of the Islamic world, to the objects of male sexual control and household slaves. In spite of what Islamic leaders and Islamic scholars may claim, they have removed or failed to permit women's rights, significantly decreasing their life opportunities and effectiveness in their roles as wives, mothers, and contributors to their communities and their nations. In these countries women have had so little say in the quality of their lives because the laws have mostly been drafted and written by men to serve men.

Thousands of Kurdish women are holding a gun to defend women's rights in the four Islamic countries now controlling Kurdistan, the land where Queen Vashti was born. More than 2,600 years ago, as an ancestor of today's Kurds, Vashti revolted against unjust treatment by her husband, King Astyages of the Medes. Consequently, today's Kurdish women will no longer tolerate the unjust practices of the Islamic rulers of Kurdistan.

Now the messages in our books inform feminist organizations worldwide, especially those in the West, about the origins of the Kurdish women's movement now fighting to defeat the extremists who continue to aggressively maintain the enslavement of women in the Islamic world. Although it is a recent publication Vashti Queen of the Ancient Medes already has some ticks of approval, while the companion title in the Airyanem Series, Esther, Mystery Queen of the Medes, explores the parallel story of the Jewish Purim hero, Esther

In light of this and other recent articles about the rights of Kurdish/Muslim ladies - have the expectations and aspirations of ladies inside marriage altered?