Sex before Marriage

[sarah]

What do Kurdish guys feel about sex before marriage, would you marry a girl who was not a virgin or how would you feel if your girlfriend who was a virgin had sex with you would you still marry her?

[abdur]

I have no problem with that, i only find it important that she did it during a serious relationship and not while fooling around here and there. Unfortunately there arent many open minded kurdish men, it's part of our culture and islamic religion to think of one's honour being something between the legs.

[DARA]

Hi

I know a lot of kurdish men in the uk, that are single, having sex outside marriage, but would not marry a woman that was not a virgin, most will probably go back home and marry there.

[DARA]

Hi

I know a lot of kurdish men in the uk, that are single, having sex outside marriage, but would not marry a woman that was not a virgin, most will probably go back home and marry there.

[sarah]

ok, thanks, what about if you are a virgin and you have sex with your Kurdish boyfriend how would this be looked upon.

[DARA]

I am going out with a kurdish man, been with him for 7 months, If I was having a sexual relationship with him outside marriage, being a woman it would be frowned up on, In the UK its okay for men to sleep around but when its muslim women it a different story, most muslim men expect there future wifes to be virgins, but how can you tell if a woman is a virgin or not and the same with men. I would not want to marry a man who has been sleeping around with all kinds of women. My bf is not a virgin he told me, I am his longest relationship so far, I trust him to be faithful to me and he trusts me, but I know eventually he will marry a Kurdish girl from back home, even though he tells he would not, you probably wondering if thats the case why am I with him, I love him, he loves me, but deep down I know he will do what his parents want him do to, keep his kurdish roots even though I am British muslim.

[Arin]

There are lots Kurdish guys who have had sex before marriage...

It absolutely disgusts me! The way women are frowned upon when they have sex before marriage but if a man does it, its all cool.

If a women has sex before marriage she is considered a whore… I think people are in need of education or shall I say a dictionary because the word "whore" or any word in connection with it has been thrown around way too much!

[DARA]

SALAAM ARIN,

You are right,

where are you from, I am based in the UK, there are a lot of kuurdish men in my community, young men, single, all the do is drive there cars around, standing on corners, trying to pick up girls, they want muslim girls, some are dating english girls because muslim girls will not go out with them etc, a lot of the men say they want to marry muslims in UK, not kurdish girls, there are many who have been granted stay in the UK but wont go back because there family may get them married.

[Arin]

SALAAM ARIN,

You are right,

where are you from, I am based in the UK, there are a lot of kuurdish men in my community, young men, single, all the do is drive there cars around, standing on corners, trying to pick up girls, they want muslim girls, some are dating english girls because muslim girls will not go out with them etc, a lot of the men say they want to marry muslims in UK, not kurdish girls, there are many who have been granted stay in the UK but wont go back because there family may get them married.

Hey Dara..

Im from London...
You are right about the Kurdish guys and they are known as the "freshies". Most of them like to date Polish girls actually... just for fun then settle down with "one of their own" in the future.

[DARA]

Salaam

Im in Derby Arin,


You are right, thats whats happening here, because they know they cant have what they want from a muslim girl, they are having fun with polish, latvian, english, many share the same girls from what I have heard, disgusting.

My BF friend lives in Portsmouth, he married a english girl, he loved her so he tells me, she was pregnant, at the birth which he was there, when the baby was delivered it was black, he had heart attack, he was so shocked, he left here, many kurdish men dont trust these woman, they are using them for you know what.

[DARA]

Salaam

Im in Derby Arin,


You are right, thats whats happening here, because they know they cant have what they want from a muslim girl, they are having fun with polish, latvian, english, many share the same girls from what I have heard, disgusting.

My BF friend lives in Portsmouth, he married a english girl, he loved her so he tells me, she was pregnant, at the birth which he was there, when the baby was delivered it was black, he had heart attack, he was so shocked, he left here, many kurdish men dont trust these woman, they are using them for you know what.

[Arin]

Salaam

Im in Derby Arin,


You are right, thats whats happening here, because they know they cant have what they want from a muslim girl, they are having fun with polish, latvian, english, many share the same girls from what I have heard, disgusting.

My BF friend lives in Portsmouth, he married a english girl, he loved her so he tells me, she was pregnant, at the birth which he was there, when the baby was delivered it was black, he had heart attack, he was so shocked, he left here, many kurdish men dont trust these woman, they are using them for you know what.

Dayymmm
but now he has you

You know I think Portsmouth is the capital for Kurds... Wallah every Kurdish guy goes there lol

[DARA]

WHY DO YOU SAY THAT, ARE THEY ALL IN PORTSMOUTH, DO YOU THINK I CAN TRUST A KURDISH MAN, WERE U BORN HERE, WOULD U DATE A KURDISH MAN.

[Arin]

Well I know lots of Kurdish guys who live there... Whether you can trust a "kurdish" depends on what kind of guy he is... Thats up to you... Not all Kurdsh guys are bad.

I was born in the UK...

[sarah]

I was with a Kurdish guy for a year and a half and did not have sex with him and he still went back home and got married. I think they can not be trusted.